This is something which I had wanted to write about, for long. How this hunts man, eats any relation to history. Well, where does it come from? How and why? Do we realize? Nope. By the time we realize it, the scars would have gone deep leaving behind the wretched face of ego.
Sometimes a little second thought could save us our life’s precious gifts. All that is required is a minute of thought over what happened. The respect we have for any relation matters in this. A precious relation treasured with true care and love, when vaporized with ego means the stupidest thing even an animal would never do.
We live a short span of life, in which we expect or want ourselves to be happy in all instances. But do we live so? No, it’s because we are influenced by everyone around us. Now what happens when you are imposed with others thoughts? Other people’s likings? You accept it if you are comfortable, and not, if you aren’t.
This is exactly life. Accepting what is comfortable and denying what is not. A relation could cease to continue when you lose the comfort with each other. But the reason for losing the comfort should not be for a crap like ego, pride, anger or jealousy. As they tend to mislead you to the wrong conclusion or wrong notion. But can be for losing real values such as trust, honesty, sincerity or love.
Turning behind the path of our life, we can see, we have crossed half the distance. What is left to be covered is still there, and why should we lose our loved ones who accompany us through the journey, holding our hands, to just an obscene feeling called ego? Let me take the example of friendship. Personally to me the most wonderful relation in this world would be friendship. I can do anything for it. I mean at least for my most dear friends.
We tend to turn to our friends for all flavors of life, trouble with parents, cheat from love, charm from other friends, praise from leaders, joy from luck, temper of anger, humor of life almost everything. When a relationship inevitably ends, we call up our close friend. But if that relationship of the close friend ends, which shoulder does our head search for? Who would point to us to say “come on man, buck up “.
There can never be a perfect relation, or let me put it this way. There can never be a perfect human; nothing can stand the same in the test of life. But the only relation we trust which would stand is friendship. We give them our deepest trust, darkest secrets, our thoughts, feels, ideas and dreams in hope for, nothing. Yes nothing. Losing a friend, we not only lose the confidence in others and us but also the unconditional love we showed or got.
When people change with time and drift apart we move on. But not with a best or close friend, nothing is more painful than losing a best friend. Not even losing a lover. Love may create a pain in heart but a break in friendship breaks your heart wide open. What I request is, not to bring your useless ego or anger in between the god’s lovely gift of friendship.
We should learn to respect the trust a friend has in us. The love he shows to us. The care, the belief he has, and the honesty of him towards us. Can we just hold to our friends hands till our last day? I would be happy, if after reading this a couple of you go back to your dear old best pals just like the rain drops falling back to earth, from where it came.
Just the thought of the old good times, the things you shared. Hands you held, heart you felt, the trust you had and the belief which you relished can never lie or let you down. True friends never tear apart. They tend to be true friends for ever, no matter what. A lost love can end up with a new love but not a best friendship. It’s destined to rebound.
My heartiest prayers and wish for an endless love of friendship.
Baggy
